Friday, March 18, 2011

When You Fall Off the Horse, Just Climb Back On


Well, hello, my faithful followers and friends. I apologize for my lengthy absence. The last few months have been full of many changes and abundant challenges, and I'm afraid I've let a lot of things slide, including my blog. I've got some good stuff coming up in the near future--things I will be sure to announce here first. A new website. A new book. And various other surprises that will hopefully make up for the lack of my status updates.

I guess the first thing I should talk about are some of the splatters that have been happening. The falling off the horse things. About two months ago I went to the emergency room with a severe pain in my side. I thought I was having a gall bladder attack or kidney stones or some such thing, but after various tests and several hours in the hospital, it turns out that it was pleurisy. Now, for those of you who don't know what pleurisy is, it is an inflammation of the lining of the lung, and let me tell you, it hurts like heck! Well, the last step in making sure it was not a serious problem was to get a blood test done to be sure there were no clots, especially in my lungs. When the doctor came back with the blood results, he said, "well, I've got good news and bad news. The good news is that there were no clots found in your blood." Of course I was relieved to hear that, but my stomach clenched with his next question. He met my eye and in a quiet voice asked, "Have you ever been tested for diabetes?" My mouth went dry and my heart sank to my stomach. "I was tested about 3 years ago," I told him, "and was prediabetic."
He shook his head and with some compassion lining his features, said, "well, it's not 'pre' any longer. Your blood sugar is 424." Now, I knew from talking to the doctor three years before that my blood sugar needed to be close to 100 to be normal and it was four times that. My stomach dropped to my feet. "We're going to give you an insulin shot now, and I want you to get in with your doctor tomorrow. Do NOT take no for answer," he said. Thankfully, my kids already had appoints for well child check ups for the next day, so I stole their appointments and went in.

Since then, I've gotten my blood sugar down to close to 100. It varies from day to day. This week's average is about 125. I'm doing everything I can to lose weight and eat healthy and exercise so that I can put this thing into remission. I am determined to make it happen.

Now, if only the rest of my life would get out of the way. Too much stress and too many decisions hit me hour by hour, and I'm afraid it makes it hard to keep on track the way I would like, though my quality of life and my eating and exercise habits are tremendously better than they have ever been.

I feel like the last year, since my book was published, I've been riding along on this lovely horse, my hair flowing behind me in the wind, and the last few months, the saddle has slipped and sent me tumbling into the mud--cut, scraped, bruised, and dirty. It's been a challenge climbing back on the horse, especially when the horse keeps running away from me, but I'm trying.

I'm trying.

Last month I had the opportunity to go to Arizona not once, but twice. Once to the Changing Hands Bookstore for their Authorpallooza event. I was able to sit with wonderful authors like Janette Rallison, Lisa Mangum, Bree Despain, and Angela Morrison. Obert Skye was there, as well as Jessica Day George, and a ton of others. I had dinner with a lovely lady who told us amazing stories about Stephenie Meyer and when she was first published and her events at the same bookstore. It was fabulous. And I got to room with the amazing Lisa Mangum, who is not only a wonderful writer, but is also an editor for Shadow Mountain and was the first and only editor to give me a phone call rejection, which is not as bad as it sounds. It was the first rejection I ever got that said, "We like you and we love your work, we just don't have room in our publishing schedule for you." There have never been hard feelings, and I had a fantastic few days with her tootling around Phoenix and Mesa. I took my GPS,which is voiced by Darth Vader, and we had many a laugh as the told us to "Take the Highway" and "Stay in Formation."

After that, Lisa went home and I stayed another day so that I could go and visit with the wonderful kids at The American Leadership Academy. My friend Theresa put me up for a couple of nights in her home, her lovely daughter having sacrificed her room for me. I was so very grateful! Theresa works at the school and made arrangements for me to come, and what a thrill it was! Those kids are fantastic and I wish I'd had more time to visit with them and not just rush from class to class and do my presentation. I hope I will have the chance to go and visit with them again.

A few weeks later, I went back for the ANWA writing conference, where for once I did not present, but was there only as an attendee. I rode down with my best friend Shari and my new wonderful friend the "Other" Karen. It was a long drive, but tons of fun and I loved spending it with these ladies. I met editors and agents and many, many fellow writers. I think my favorite class was Elana Johnson's. The woman is brilliant and hilarious and I love her to pieces. Kirk Shaw kept picking on me in classes so people kept coming up to me after and asking if I was a Covent author. I had to tell them, no, we're just friends and have been to a ton of the same conferences. I met an agent who is interested in the first book in another series I've written. That was cool.

And life goes on. I'll be attending Writer's Fest at Clarke Johnson Jr. High in Tooele next Friday, the 25th of March, and will be attending an author event in Ephraim on April 9th.

And for those of you waiting for book 2, I know it was supposed to be out like three days ago--but it isn't, and I honestly have no idea when the release date will be. As soon as I know, you will, I promise.

And that's about it for now. Hopefully my next post will be happier. I could use some happy posts, and I'm sure you could as well. The one thing I've learned through all of this, is that it's important to just keep chasing the dream. Get back on the horse when it kicks you off. Keep doing the work that will get you there and I have no doubt, that someday, we'll all catch the ring and win the prize.

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

When You Can't Say Something Nice . . . .


My mom raised me with the saying, "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." Well, how long has it been since I've written a heartfelt post? Ages, it feels, but the reason is that exact phrase. Despite all the interesting things happening with signings and being published and all, life has been very, very difficult and I've felt like if I couldn't talk about the good stuff going on, then I should just go into hermit mode and write nothing for a while.

The problem is, when I go into hermit mode, it makes things worse, not better. I'm going to go out on a limb here and share some of the challenges I've been having for two reasons--one, in the hope it will help somebody out there know they are not alone, and two, because if I don't share all this garbage with somebody I am going to explode--quite literally, it feels. I'm going to end up with one of those lovely white shirts with the extra long sleeves and spend my days in a padded room.

When my mom died three years ago, I lost my best friend and greatest confidante. She was my cheerleader, my writing buddy, and my greatest support, and in a matter of three days, she went from being strong and healthy to being gone. Forever. You can't tell me that kind of pain goes away with time. The intensity might ease, but the deep, empty, aching spot inside of me is like a black hole that gets bigger with time until it consumes all that I am.

A little over a year ago I had a total breakdown. I was outside, bawling my head off, arguing with my husband over something stupid, and I just snapped and started banging my head on the wooden stairs, and would have done it on the concrete if he hadn't stopped me. The next day I alternately laughed hysterically and cried as I had some energy work done. I couldn't help myself. For a week after that I wore earplugs because any sound was like nails on a chalk board.

You might wonder why I'm telling you all of this. Well, after my breakdown, I started doing some research about what might have caused it aside from the grief, and after going to see a psychologist and getting some testing done, it was discovered that I was bi-polar and losing my mom just set things off in a big kind of way. Now, unbeknownst to me, there are many kinds of bi-polar. I'm the manic type, but I still get depressed. More likely though I will stay up all night working on a project and have a hard time making myself sleep. I talk a lot when I'm excited. I am not suicidal, nor am I the type to stay in bed for weeks on end.

But once the sun goes down for the winter and fall, I get depressed in a big sort of way. I lose hope in everything. I wonder why I bother to write when nobody will like it or it will never see the light of day. I want to spend my days playing World of Warcraft and reading books or watching movies to escape the pain of just being alive. I feel like nobody likes me. I get paranoid about whether my friends still want me around. Life just gets HARD. I know it's not logical, but depression has nothing to do with logic.

For some reason this year in particular has been really hard. I think it's because my mom, who always KNEW I would get published, wasn't here to see it all happen. It was a shared dream for us, and now it's here and she doesn't get to see it, not in her earthly form. And I miss her so much I have no words.

So, there you have it, guys. The innards of Karen E. Hoover splattered all over her blog. It's a big bloody mess, isn't it? Thanks for reading anyway. Hopefully I can find some different help soon and find a way to be happy again, but in the meantime, I'll just keep climbing out of bed every day and make the best of the time I have. I'm trying to make a difference in what ways I can. School visits. I'd like to do some writing workshops. When I talk about writing is the only time I really feel alive, so if any of you out there would like me to come talk to your classes, writing groups, youth groups, church groups, anything, please give me the opportunity. I desperately need to feel alive.

Oh, and I can sing and play the flute too. :) Thanks for listening, all my bloggy friends. Hugs to you all.

Karen

Quote of the Day: "Write your first draft with your heart. Re-write with your head."
~ From the movie Finding Forrester

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Costco signing cancelled

Tonight's signing (Tuesday, October 26th) is cancelled, due to my stupidity. I locked my keys in my bedroom and it's a keyed knob, then realized I had left my spare in my car . . . which is also locked. Oh, and my phone is in the car too. Yeah, not one of my brightest moments. *sigh*

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Eeek!

Holy crap, I'm on Youtube . . . TWICE!!!


Doesn't Ali just rock? I loved when she did this Vlog for me for my blog tour, but love her even more for putting it on Youtube. Love you, Ali!!!



This was at LDSBA (LDS Booksellers Association) and was my first time in front of a camera. It was nerve wracking and totally fun! And now that I actually got to see it, am rather pleased with how it turned out. I don't sound as stupid as I thought! :D Always a good thing.

Anyway, just had to share. So totally cool.

Sunday, October 10, 2010

Nominations

I'm not usually one to toot my own horn or beg for nominations, so I won't--but I would like to ask that any of you who have read The Sapphire Flute and enjoyed it and feel it worthy of a nomation for the 2010 Whitney Awards that you go to http://whitneyawards.com and submit a nomination for me? This particular contest is very meaningful to me, as I feel I am a product of the LDStorymakers conference. It is the place where I learned to write and write well, and it is the place I won my first contests, and met both my editor and publisher, so to be nominated for a Whitney, a contest for LDS writers and their books that was started just a few years ago, would be the greatest compliment I could receive.

So please, if you liked the book, take a few minutes and send in a nomination. It would mean so much to me, whether I ever win or not, just to know that people find this book worthy of a nod in that direction.

Thank you!


Quote of the Day: "There is creative reading as well as creative writing"
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson~

Thursday, October 7, 2010

DONE!!!

I finished The Armor of Light!!! 112,553 words, some of which will go, and more of which will come as I edit, but the book is done! Hooray, hooray! I have not finished a book in about 5 years, so this was a bit scary for me. Now I know I can still do it, even with my mom gone and being busier than I've been in my entire life.

I can write. It feels amazingly good!

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Signing Schedule for October


I know several of you have asked when I'll be signing in your area, so I thought I'd post my upcoming schedule. It changes every month, so if I don't get to a Costco near you this month, just wait until November or December. I'm pretty sure I'll hit them all by them, even St. George, if I can get it arranged. Sorry I'm still so absent from blogging. Juggling a family, book signings, and finishing The Armor of Light has proven to be slightly overwhelming. Hopefully I'll be back soon and will tell you all about the wonderful trip I took to Denver for the Mountains and Plains Booksellers Convention. In the meantime, here's my schedule! (And just in case you don't know, you can always check my schedule in the sidebar.)


Friday, October 1st
4:00 pm to 8:00 pm
Salt Lake City Costco
1818 South 300 West
Salt Lake City, Utah


Cancelled (Sorry! Can't be helped!)
Saturday, October 2nd
12:00 pm to 4:00 pm
West Valley City Costco
3747 South 2700 West
West Valley City, Utah


Monday, October 4th
4:00 pm to 8:00 pm
Lehi Costco
198 North 1200 East
Lehi, Utah


Tuesday, October 5th
4:00 pm to 8:00 pm
Bountiful Costco
573 West 100 North
Bountiful, Utah


Thursday, October 7th
4:00 pm to 8:00 pm
Orem Costco
648 East 800 South
Orem, Utah


Friday, October 8th
4:00 pm to 8:00 pm
Murray Costco
5201 South Intermountain Drive
Murray, Utah


Monday, October 11th
4:00 pm to 8:00 pm
Sandy Costco
11100 South Auto Mall Drive
Sandy, Utah


Tuesday, October 12th
4:00 pm to 8:00 pm
Ogden Costco
3656 Wall Avenue
Ogden, Utah


Thursday, October 14th
4:00 pm to 8:00 pm
Salt Lake City Costco
1818 South 300 West
Salt Lake City, Utah


Saturday, October 16th
12:00 pm to 4:00 pm
Murray Costco
5201 South Intermountain Drive
Murray, Utah


Monday, October 18th
4:00 pm to 8:00 pm
Orem Costco
648 East 800 South
Orem, Utah


Tuesday, October 19th
4:00 pm to 8:00 pm
Sandy Costco
11100 South Auto Mall Drive
Sandy, Utah


Thursday, October 21st
4:00 pm to 8:00 pm
Ogden Costco
3656 Wall Avenue
Ogden, Utah


Monday, October 25th
4:00 pm to 8:00 pm
Orem Costco
648 East 800 South
Orem, Utah


Tuesday, October 26th
4:00 pm to 8:00 pm
Salt Lake City Costco
1818 South 300 West
Salt Lake City, Utah


Friday, October 29th
4:00 pm to 8:00 pm
Sandy Costco
11100 South Auto Mall Drive
Sandy, Utah